“Nobody likes to admit that they were wrong…sometimes, it’s the fear of rejection of the apology…sometimes, it’s how apologizing makes you feel…weak, ashamed, etc. “Perhaps, they were criticized harshly by parents or others, while growing up, and as a result, avoid admitting mistakes because of the horrible feelings it brings up.”….”Some people prefer to stay in denial. Their logic goes something like this: If you don’t admit you’ve done anything wrong, then it’s almost like not doing anything wrong at all. If there is no admission of fault, then there’s no need to take responsibility.”…”Giving an apology is like being the “loser” and the person receiving the apology is the “winner.”…”Saying you’re sorry shows those you love that you care enough about them and the relationship; to be aware of your shortcomings and take responsibility for your hurtful actions. In the end, making things right is way more important than being right.”- today.com./ Dr. Robi Ludwig/ 9/14/2009.
Not being able to admit you were wrong, shows a weak sense of self, and are avoiding feelings that further damage their self image…Instead, they often…”double down” and blame the other person….it’s a method used to avoid taking responsibility.-psychologytoday.com. 4/30/21.
Another reason for lack of apologies, is that the offending person simply doesn’t care. This may or may not be a narcissist; the type of person who is very, or completely, self absorbed…the type of person who can’t or refuses to see things from your perspective.”…-mindful.org. 4/30/19….”Believing the offense was a mere slip-up, understandable, or the victim’s fault, reduces the motive to apologize.”-mindful.org. 4/30/19.
“You get told to say sorry all the time when you’re young, but you never actually get taught how to apologize.”- stylist.co.uk.
Conclusion: Giving a sincere apology, is not a simple thing, depending on the person. It is of my opinion, it is not up to me; if I was the one who was deeply insulted or disrespected, to then tell, coax, point out, gently reason, to the rude, disrespectful, thoughtless person, whoever they may be, that I was very insulted by what they said or did. If they don’t have sufficient brain power to figure it out for themselves, then they don’t deserve to have a place in my life. If, after realizing I haven’t communicated with them at all after a period of time, maybe they now realize when someone disrespects me, or someone I love, so badly, there is no need for them in my life. But, on the flip side, all I would need is a sincere apology, and all would be forgiven and forgotten. Funny, not funny, how simple an apology seems, but can be a very complex, complicated endeavor. / Done
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