“We need to encourage children to do things for themselves. We need to teach them to think independently, solve their own problems and believe deeply in their own abilities…sometimes “parents tend to do things for their children that the kids could easily do for themselves…in an effort to prevent them from feeling pain and discomfort, parents rush in and rescue the children, rather than allowing them to learn from their mistakes..” For example, by age 2, a child is capable of dressing themselves…yet so many parents continue to dress kids…robbing them of the opportunity to develop capability and relish their accomplishments. It isn’t easy to watch our children fumble and stumble. But sometimes that’s what it takes to help them become confident, capable and independent individuals, which should be every parents goal.”-Jane Nelson, Ed.D., parents.com. 5/17/22.
“Great parents are playful parents.”…it’s important to have fun with kids…embracing the joy of a child’s world and sharing it by being part of their play…Play is also the way that children recover from life’s upsets…play engages us in our child’s world, and what better way to forge a deep and lasting connection ?”-Lawr. Cohen, Ph.D.,parents.com. 5/17/22.
“The real key to raising a child with character is to be a person of character yourself.”….parents who demonstrate genuine sensitivity to a child’s feelings and needs, instill in them the ability to empathize with and care for others.”-Eliz. Berger, M.D. parents.com 5/17/22.
The importance of unconditional love. “Raising a child with unconditional love means that no fear is created in parent-child interactions. To love unconditionally simply means that parents accept their children completely and without reservations or stipulations.”…”There is no spoken or unspoken message causing the child to think they have to be something other than what they are, in order to be loved.”-Barry Philipp/ naturalchild.org./ 1998.
Discipline: Research shows that yelling and harsh verbal discipline can have similar negative effects as hitting. Children…are more likely to have behavioral problems, anxiety, depression, stress and other emotional issues…yelling is even more harmful when accompanied by hurtful abusive words, blame, shame…resulting in a withdrawal from the parent; low self esteem, bullying behavior, aggressive behavior, social problems.-medicinenet.com. 6/16/21.
There are so many professional opinions on how to discipline your child. The item that makes the most logical sense, is listening, talking, show your child understanding, kindness, caring, love, compassion and empathy. Don’t judge, don’t put them down. Show them that you can have a normal conversation without getting emotional. ”You are trying to develop a sense of empathy so your child can walk away knowing: ”My parent understood where I am coming from.”- strong4life.com.
Conclusion: In my own personal experience raising 2 beautiful boys, the only ”discipline” I used, was talking to them, listening, love, kindness, caring, empathy, understanding, compassion. If they did something wrong, when very young, I would just raise my voice just a little bit, and they would stop what they were doing, and behave, because they knew I was a little upset at them. Worked every time. The most important factor in raising good children besides unconditional love, to me, is spending time together. Not sitting side by side on your phones together. Actually talking, doing, playing, going, being adventurous together, listening to their suggestions and doing things together they want to do. No need to try to control them. If you’ve done all these things, have confidence that they will make the right decisions for themselves; because at some point, you have to let them go. / Done
Good food for thawt!