It’s okay to feel guilty when somebody dies

There’s no right or wrong way to feel, there are no rules, about how to grieve, when someone dies.-help2makesense.org.

So many deaths come with guilt. Accidental deaths, suicides, overdoses, etc.. When someone feels guilty about a death, other people give you reasons not to feel guilty. Problem is, you can’t change how you feel. ”We suck at death, dying and grief in our society.”-whatsyourgrief.com.

“Kim feels guilty about her daughter’s death, and that is okay. Really. She isn’t consumed by it. It doesn’t interfere with other things in her life.” She accepts it, and goes on living.

“Dealing with so many feelings that come with grief is not about getting over them. It is not about ”letting them go” or ”moving on.” It’s about accepting those feellings, emotions as a part of us, but they don’t define who we are.-whatsyourgrief.com.

Writing down your feelings of guilt is also helpful; by finishing these sentences:

•I should have….

•I could have…

•I would have…

•I wish I…

It is also therapeutic to write out, if needed, an ”I am sorry letter.” Including everything, anything you feel sorry about.

You can carry around these feelings in your pocket, bag; Re-read them as often as necessary.-help2makesense.org. Plus, it helps to talk it out with close family and friends, whenever you have the need.

Conclusion: Your feelings are your feelings. No one can convince you not to feel a certain way. No one can tell you, your feelings are wrong and you need to go on with your life. The simplicity of the grief, guilt, regret is that these feelings are a part of you for as long as you need to feel this way. Take you time and don’t feel guilty about feeling guilty. / Done